STOP Texting while dating
It's killing relationships
The one difference that I have noticed from the early 2000s and now is “texting”. It seems to be one of the biggest killers of communication. We all know how important that is in a relationship.
When my friends ask me for advice on a guy they are talking to or just started dating, so many times it's “He texted me this, then I texted him that, then texted him this and then I got angry and” so I texted him a novel. It’s extremely painful to try and decipher what the other person is saying or meaning behind the text.
Don’t get me wrong, there's nothing bad with texting people but these days my friends seem to be texting serious and deep conversations with men they want a relationship with. You miss out on body language, facial expression, tone of voice and without these things, messages get misinterpreted or misunderstood.
Over the phone communication is more personal.
My Advice
Slow down on the texting, only use it for small conversation starters such as: “Hey, is now a good time to call you?” “I’m going to be a bit late to our date, is 1.30 ok?” “I miss you already”
Try to let your partner/date know that you want to keep conversations to a minimum through text and have full conversations over the phone or face to face. If you find yourself texting back and forth and the conversation gets confusing or heated, call them. If it’s not a good time to call, then message them and let them know that you don't want to continue this argument through text and ask him when the best time is to call.
You will find you will clear it up in a heart beat over the phone in less than five minutes versus texting and getting angrier or more confused for hours. Also, if you want to have an instant response, calling him is the best way.
When women are in love, they just want to contact that guy all the time. It’s in our nature to want connection. This is why I suggest making a date to meet, even if it’s an entire week, you should be looking forward to the date and counting down the days instead of messaging him to get your fix.